Building a “Ten” Marriage with Billy & Melissa Hofacker

Building a “Ten” Marriage with Billy & Melissa Hofacker

September 02, 20251 min read

Building a “Ten” Marriage with Billy & Melissa Hofacker

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This week’s episode is extra special. Melissa joins me for a conversation we originally had on Marriage Therapy Radio. Together we share how our marriage has grown from survival mode into something we both call a “ten.”

You’ll hear about the systems we use to stay connected (date nights, family meetings, Sunday check-ins), the role of faith in deepening our relationship, and how moments of crisis shaped us for the better. We even talk about Jiu Jitsu and how the mat taught me lessons I carry into our marriage.

If you’re looking for hope and practical takeaways to strengthen your relationship, this one’s for you.

Key Takeaways:

  • “Ten” doesn’t mean perfect—it means committed.

  • Systems build connection: date nights, marriage meetings, family rhythms.

  • Initiating connection is a skill Melissa had to practice.

  • Transformation starts within—personal growth changes the relationship.

  • Faith deepens when life gets harder.

  • Jiu Jitsu taught humility, discipline, and emotional control.

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